Many married couples are finding an easy solution in divorce when things get rough their marriage. Breakdown in communication and selfishness on the part of both spouses can be the common causes of why marriages end in divorce. When this happens the couple drift apart from each other, in fact too far as to be able to still reach out to the other person and the only possible solution is to break the tie. If you somehow feel that this is slowly happening to your marriage and you want to do something about it, then you should go for marriage counseling.
Agreeing that marriage counseling is a solution to their marriage problem is one way to ensure its success. If one party is unwilling to go for counseling then even if he/she is forced to do it, it will be more difficult to succeed because success depends on the efforts of both parties. If there is mutual cooperation and working together, then we can expect a successful marriage counseling session. With both parties, it would be easier to come up with solutions to marital problems since each one of his/her part will be willing to contribute to solving the problem. Marriage counseling may fail if the cause of the trouble is unfaithfulness in one spouse. An unfaithful spouse no longer desire his/her partner and so he/she will be more than willing to bread the marriage.
The marriage counselor acts as the mediator or the one that is in control of the sessions so that one party speaks up his/her heart and thoughts, there will be no fear of being cut off, rejected, shouted at, hit, or any other negative response from the other. After the venting out of their thoughts and feelings, it will be the counselor’s turn to speak and make an assessment of what has just been revealed and point out wrong attitudes and wrong behavior in both spouses. Sometimes the arguments center of who is right but this is not the issue. It takes solving the problem together. With the help of a marriage counselor, everything that is wrong about how they deal with their problems will be brought out and the counselor will teach them lessons and proper behavior in these situations.
In marriage counseling, the counselor would try to forge forgiveness in each other’s heart. The start of healing will come when wrong words and wrong actions are forgiven. Once each realizes their failures and tries to make up for it, then it is a good sign and a good start of repairing the broken relationship that is existing in the marriage.
If you and your spouse are willing to give your marriage another chance, then seek a good marriage counselor and see your relationship restored back to what it was before.